Today’s tip actually came to me from this weekend! I’m usually more of a planner, but this was too good not to share. This week’s confidence tip is finding a support group!

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I know it’s obvious. We’ve all heard it, but I was reminded of it after thinking about how grateful I am of the group of friends and family I have.

My son has been away visiting family for the past two weekends. Leaving my husband and I to actually spend time together!! (Which is SUPER important, by the way!) But developing your romantic relationship is a different topic for a different day. Anyway, we have both wanted to focus on our social lives, because it’s so easy to forget about that when you’re working on every other area of life. Balance is so hard to maintain when life gets busy.

We decided to see what my group of friends were up to. A little information on this group. They’re the best example of a group of friends I could ask for. We’re a pretty close group. That being said, it can be hard for new people to feel welcome. The only problem I had, was that I felt like my husband was having a hard time fitting in. Not that he had to, but these people are still an important part of my life and aren’t going anywhere.

It turns out, he just needed to be around them more to get comfortable. So, for the last two weekends we spent the majority of Friday and Saturday night enjoying our friends.

What does this have to do with cultivating confidence, you ask? It really dawned on me how important it is to surround yourself with people who would rather build you up, than tear you down. I’m so blessed that both the men and women I surround myself with want me to succeed. I know this because they always cheer me on in the good times, but also offer me kind, honest criticism when I’m struggling or if I’m wrong.

Everyone needs that.

It’s so important to your confidence to have that group of people you can count on. I go to them for everything from business advice to fashion advice, and everything in between.

I realize developing those friendships can be difficult. If you need some ideas, feel free to shoot me a message!

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Hello again, Friends!

I’m back!!! Last week we covered my first and favorite tip for my confidence coaching clients, finding sensuality… For many, its the first step on the way to finding your sexual confidence! Or for anything else you may need confidence for, really!!

For this week, my tip may seem a little bit basic… but bare with me. It works. The easiest way to describe it is “fake it ’til you make it”. In all aspects of life, not just with sex. Basically, imagine the person you want to be, and start acting like you’re already that person. If you’re having trouble seeing yourself that way, try writing down all the qualities you’d like to have.

For example, my personal list would look like:

  • Healthy
  • Smart/intelligent
  • Fun
  • Spotainious
  • Trustworthy
  • Confident(Yes, that’s what I wrote)
  • Have more balance
  • Be creative

The next thing I did was to write down what I needed to do to become that person. Like this:

  • Be more active
  • Make healthier food decisions
  • Meditate
  • Be more grateful
  • Keep a planner

You get the point.

For my clients who struggle with confidence on a physical level. I suggest that you make a habit of looking in the mirror, and intentionally telling yourself three things you love about yourself. This will start changing your outlook of how you see yourself from whatever negative thing you’re thinking, to a more positive one while you work on changing whatever it is you don’t like. I wish someone had told me about this years ago! It took me so long to love myself, even with all my flaws!

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And yes, there are still lots of things I don’t particularly love about my body, fyi. The important thing to remember is that confidence is about your relationship with yourself. If you can’t love yourself, how will you really accomplish anything else toward this goal.

So, I guess what I’m saying is, the way I was able to find my confidence (sexual and otherwise) was to work toward a healthy lifestyle, focusing on finding balance. So, in short, work on finding a healthy balance within your life, and your confidence will kind of fall into place.

This seemed like less of a blog and more of a brain dump, but I hope I got my message across.


Also, my big news!!! I am working with a few local businesses to host the first ever “Cultivating Your Confidence Private Party”! This will be a night of fun and relaxation while surrounding yourself with supportive people who all have the same goals in mind! I’ll be posting more on this soon, but if you’re interested in joining, message me for more details!

What does confidence mean to you? Who comes to mind when you think of real, powerful confidence?

What’s keeping you from reaching that level of confidence?

Confidence coaching is a process that begins with finding the source of your insecurities and addressing them in a manner that allows you to move forward with your life. No matter your reason for wanting more confidence, this process helps!

Most of the time, my clients come to me for sexual confidence. But, the same process is applied for social confidence, public speaking, or any other area where confidence is needed.

My first tip for cultivating confidence, particularly sexual confidence, is to develop a habit of mindfulness. Sort of like meditating, but think of this as more of a mental exercise.

Before doing this, it’s important to understand the difference between sexuality and sensuality.

Sexuality, in this context is defined as having the capacity for sexual feelings. While sensuality is defined as the enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleasure; or the condition of being pleasing or fulfilling to the senses.

This mindfulness exercise is actually addressing your personal sensuality, because it’s hard to develop your confidence if you’re having a hard time being able to put yourself in the mood.

The best way to begin using this exercise is to begin noticing how things affect all your senses. How does the food your eating taste, how does it feel in your mouth. Do you like the way it smells and looks? What emotions do you feel from putting this much thought into an every day task?

Begin applying this to everything you can think of. Then, when appropriate, begin trying to bring more sexual intention to this exercise. Begin noticing how your clothes feel against your skin, the way some music effects your mood…

Then, you can pull this new exercise off the stress and insecurities and put you completely in the moment! Isn’t it time you allowed yourself to REALLY enjoy yourself without feeling uncomfortable?

In my next post, I’ll be covering another tip for cultivating confidence. As well as making an exciting announcement that you won’t want to miss!

If you have any questions, feel free to email me, or visit my website for more info!

After some unexpected issues, we have all the bugs worked out (sort of).  I’m so happy and grateful for all the support I’ve received from so many people. I have been blessed with the most amazing support group, not only from my family, but from friends, coworkers, even complete strangers. I feel like I wouldn’t have continued building my business without such amazing people.

It’s really important to know that anytime you’re trying to better yourself or change the way things are usually done, it makes people uncomfortable. It’s inevitable that you will have some resistance. That’s why support is so important and I want everyone who has supported me to know how thankful I am.

I’m also thankful for the ones who created resistance. It will make me so appreciative when I have reached my goal. It has motivated me to work so much harder. I will still be happy to help you if the time comes around, and I wish nothing but positive things for you.sunset-summer-golden-hour-paul-filitchkin.jpg