My Confidence Coaching Tips Part 2

Hello again, Friends!

I’m back!!! Last week we covered my first and favorite tip for my confidence coaching clients, finding sensuality… For many, its the first step on the way to finding your sexual confidence! Or for anything else you may need confidence for, really!!

For this week, my tip may seem a little bit basic… but bare with me. It works. The easiest way to describe it is “fake it ’til you make it”. In all aspects of life, not just with sex. Basically, imagine the person you want to be, and start acting like you’re already that person. If you’re having trouble seeing yourself that way, try writing down all the qualities you’d like to have.

For example, my personal list would look like:

  • Healthy
  • Smart/intelligent
  • Fun
  • Spotainious
  • Trustworthy
  • Confident(Yes, that’s what I wrote)
  • Have more balance
  • Be creative

The next thing I did was to write down what I needed to do to become that person. Like this:

  • Be more active
  • Make healthier food decisions
  • Meditate
  • Be more grateful
  • Keep a planner

You get the point.

For my clients who struggle with confidence on a physical level. I suggest that you make a habit of looking in the mirror, and intentionally telling yourself three things you love about yourself. This will start changing your outlook of how you see yourself from whatever negative thing you’re thinking, to a more positive one while you work on changing whatever it is you don’t like. I wish someone had told me about this years ago! It took me so long to love myself, even with all my flaws!

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And yes, there are still lots of things I don’t particularly love about my body, fyi. The important thing to remember is that confidence is about your relationship with yourself. If you can’t love yourself, how will you really accomplish anything else toward this goal.

So, I guess what I’m saying is, the way I was able to find my confidence (sexual and otherwise) was to work toward a healthy lifestyle, focusing on finding balance. So, in short, work on finding a healthy balance within your life, and your confidence will kind of fall into place.

This seemed like less of a blog and more of a brain dump, but I hope I got my message across.


Also, my big news!!! I am working with a few local businesses to host the first ever “Cultivating Your Confidence Private Party”! This will be a night of fun and relaxation while surrounding yourself with supportive people who all have the same goals in mind! I’ll be posting more on this soon, but if you’re interested in joining, message me for more details!

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