Today’s tip actually came to me from this weekend! I’m usually more of a planner, but this was too good not to share. This week’s confidence tip is finding a support group!

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I know it’s obvious. We’ve all heard it, but I was reminded of it after thinking about how grateful I am of the group of friends and family I have.

My son has been away visiting family for the past two weekends. Leaving my husband and I to actually spend time together!! (Which is SUPER important, by the way!) But developing your romantic relationship is a different topic for a different day. Anyway, we have both wanted to focus on our social lives, because it’s so easy to forget about that when you’re working on every other area of life. Balance is so hard to maintain when life gets busy.

We decided to see what my group of friends were up to. A little information on this group. They’re the best example of a group of friends I could ask for. We’re a pretty close group. That being said, it can be hard for new people to feel welcome. The only problem I had, was that I felt like my husband was having a hard time fitting in. Not that he had to, but these people are still an important part of my life and aren’t going anywhere.

It turns out, he just needed to be around them more to get comfortable. So, for the last two weekends we spent the majority of Friday and Saturday night enjoying our friends.

What does this have to do with cultivating confidence, you ask? It really dawned on me how important it is to surround yourself with people who would rather build you up, than tear you down. I’m so blessed that both the men and women I surround myself with want me to succeed. I know this because they always cheer me on in the good times, but also offer me kind, honest criticism when I’m struggling or if I’m wrong.

Everyone needs that.

It’s so important to your confidence to have that group of people you can count on. I go to them for everything from business advice to fashion advice, and everything in between.

I realize developing those friendships can be difficult. If you need some ideas, feel free to shoot me a message!

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Hello again, Friends!

I’m back!!! Last week we covered my first and favorite tip for my confidence coaching clients, finding sensuality… For many, its the first step on the way to finding your sexual confidence! Or for anything else you may need confidence for, really!!

For this week, my tip may seem a little bit basic… but bare with me. It works. The easiest way to describe it is “fake it ’til you make it”. In all aspects of life, not just with sex. Basically, imagine the person you want to be, and start acting like you’re already that person. If you’re having trouble seeing yourself that way, try writing down all the qualities you’d like to have.

For example, my personal list would look like:

  • Healthy
  • Smart/intelligent
  • Fun
  • Spotainious
  • Trustworthy
  • Confident(Yes, that’s what I wrote)
  • Have more balance
  • Be creative

The next thing I did was to write down what I needed to do to become that person. Like this:

  • Be more active
  • Make healthier food decisions
  • Meditate
  • Be more grateful
  • Keep a planner

You get the point.

For my clients who struggle with confidence on a physical level. I suggest that you make a habit of looking in the mirror, and intentionally telling yourself three things you love about yourself. This will start changing your outlook of how you see yourself from whatever negative thing you’re thinking, to a more positive one while you work on changing whatever it is you don’t like. I wish someone had told me about this years ago! It took me so long to love myself, even with all my flaws!

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And yes, there are still lots of things I don’t particularly love about my body, fyi. The important thing to remember is that confidence is about your relationship with yourself. If you can’t love yourself, how will you really accomplish anything else toward this goal.

So, I guess what I’m saying is, the way I was able to find my confidence (sexual and otherwise) was to work toward a healthy lifestyle, focusing on finding balance. So, in short, work on finding a healthy balance within your life, and your confidence will kind of fall into place.

This seemed like less of a blog and more of a brain dump, but I hope I got my message across.


Also, my big news!!! I am working with a few local businesses to host the first ever “Cultivating Your Confidence Private Party”! This will be a night of fun and relaxation while surrounding yourself with supportive people who all have the same goals in mind! I’ll be posting more on this soon, but if you’re interested in joining, message me for more details!